WTF Wednesday

I am still so appalled by the events over the weekend and the commentary since that I am at a constant level of SUPER RAGE. It’s not a free speech issue. They exercised their right to free speech. They marched in the street shouting horrendous things and they weren’t arrested for it. There you go – free speech in action. I am going to burn the place down if one more person explains to me that I don’t get to complain about free speech . YES I DO. I have every right to express my anger at your stupid hateful words. Lauren Duca’s “Thigh High Politics” column this week is about Charlottesville and I highly recommend reading it.

It infuriates me that I keep seeing the excuse of “Well, what about other hate groups?” or “What about the New Black Panthers.” I don’t give a crap about what the New Black Panthers are doing because they weren’t the ones rioting in the street with torches yelling, “Jews will not replace us.” They aren’t responsible for millions of deaths in the name of racial purity. They aren’t part of a race that has historically oppressed everyone else in this country. White supremacists are a scourge on our society, and it is up to white people to denounce them and stop empowering them. People of color and Muslims are constantly told to “police their own communities,” so white folks, this is on us. Their actions are not defensible or excusable on any level.

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I was genuinely surprised at the massive (at least on my social media) outpouring of defensiveness and negativity surrounding the Women’s March in January. I did not see that coming at all. I am unsurprised by the fact that those same people have not managed a single peep about this Nazi nonsense. Women Marching = Shameful and Embarrassing. Nazis Marching = It’s their right.


I am also not being “impossible to please” as I was told on Monday because I am pissed that it took the President 48 hours to specifically name and denounce the protesters and the ideology of white supremacy. Numerous Republican politicians immediately condemned the white supremacists directly on Saturday. They got it right.

The rhetoric of fault on both sides does nothing to halt the flow of these idiots and reinforces their belief that they are going to “fulfill the promises of Donald Trump.” That is why his condemnation is so important and why it has to be immediate and specific. Shocking no one (except maybe David Duke who probably cried tears of white pride), he reinforced his relationship with the “alt-right” yesterday by insisting that there were some “very fine people on both sides.” WHITE SUPREMACISTS ARE NOTE EVER FINE PEOPLE. STFU you cheeto-dusted asshole.

Also, a bunch of folks apparently blame Barack Obama for this situation. Yes, the ONLY person of color to hold the Office of President is responsible for your racist shitty ways. Okay.

Image result for obama eye roll gifAs a white person in America, I am frequently disappointed in myself in the numerous ways that I fail to support others. What happened on Saturday is who we are as white Americans. I’m not surprised that the ideals of white supremacy still fester here for so many delusional souls, but I am astounded at the number of people who can’t even agree on a basic level that Nazis should not be welcome here. We lost over 400,000 soldiers in World War II to eradicate this ideology. Americans are supposed to hate Nazis. Their defeat is part of the fabric of our identity, so why is it so hard for people to just say that it is wrong? If they’re not denouncing it, then I assume they support it considering allllllllllllllllllll of the other political issues they feel so completely comfortable commenting on.

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Vice has published their latest episode, “Charlottesville: Race and Terror” for free online. I don’t understand how anyone can watch this and not see terror, racism, bigotry, and hate. The first few minutes alone make me feel like I’m going to vomit from shame. Just listen to what the guy says about Ivanka Trump and Jared Kushner. Disgusting. I can’t even imagine how terrifying that must have been to be the brave souls who surrounded that statue and stood up to these psychos. Those people are the real patriots.

WTF Wednesday

There are frequent times in my life that I honestly cannot believe how incredibly stupid I can be. God did not giveth to me in the common sense department. This weekend I was cooking and I could not for the life of me get the clear plastic part of this container detached from the yellow piece on the bottom.

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There were minutes of struggle. So, I asked Sari to come help me out. I realized as she walked over to the kitchen that I could simply pour the tomatoes out of the top of the container where there is a big hole under the “Cherubs” label. I already had that part open, and it did not once occur to me as I struggled to properly open the bottom of the container that I could just pour them out of the already opened top. Sari was not impressed.

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I just stayed riding in that train of dumbness right on into Monday. My boss forwarded me an email asking asked if I wanted to attend a solar eclipse watching event 9 am on August 21. I assumed it was 9 pm and explained that we had an event that night. Now, if you know anything all about a solar eclipse, then you already know that it requires the sun in order to happen. It never occurred to me when I was answering that a solar eclipse at night makes NO SENSE AT ALL. Thankfully, he pointed out my error before I could reply to the group declining the invitation, but I felt like a real fool.

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On the bright side, Lisa also thought it was at night too, so that made me feel a lot better about the whole thing. In our defense, no one ever invites us to fun things at 9 am on a Monday.

To everyone who is pregnant, I love you, but you’re not finding out the gender of your baby – you’re finding out the sex. There were five “gender reveal” parties that popped up on my Facebook this weekend. I felt truly sad watching them because there was only one father who seemed thrilled out of his mind to find out they were going to have a girl. One dad found out he was having a boy and shouted, “Yes, YES, I won!!! THANK GOD.” Rude. And two other dads looked completely bewildered and shocked when learning they are having a daughter.

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One future dad just said, “Oh, okay” and SHRUGGED. HE SHRUGGED. He would be a dead body if he was with me (see: Reasons I’m Alone). I see these kinds of reactions to girls all too frequently and it honestly breaks my heart. There is so much jubilation over a son, and they excitedly start talking about taking him hunting and playing sports with him. Dudes, your daughters can go hunting and play sports with you too. I’m not saying that this happens every time and I know plenty of guys who were beyond happy to find out they were going to have a daughter, but if you can’t be equally excited regardless of the sex of your baby, then maybe don’t film yourself finding out and put it on the internet.

I also don’t think it’s fair to start setting the expectation that your child will behave or act in a certain way (gender) before they’re even born, but that’s a whole other issue.

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While I wish we lived in a world where a woman is never faced with the decision to get an abortion, that is not reality for millions of women each year. I support any woman’s decision to terminate a pregnancy for any reason and I am EXTREMELY ANGRY that for 2018 elections democrats have gone back on their April statement that a woman’s right to choose is not negotiable. They will now fund pro-life candidates which honestly breaks my heart. Abortion is never a simple issue and you can restrict legal abortion all you want, but desperate women will still find a way. Time published an article last week about “What It Was Like to Be an Abortion Provider in the U.S. Before Roe v. Wade.Give that a read.

(Original Caption) McGrann, Pa.: Sign Of The Times. A sign of the times, this billboard on Rt. 66 in McGrann shows that legalized abortions in New York are getting to be a big business. The firm offers prices usually under $250.00.

In 2012, unintended pregnancy was estimated at 85 million (out of 213 million) worldwide. In the Unites States, approximately 49% of pregnancies are unintended.The WHO estimates that 21.6 million women worldwide experience an unsafe abortion which leads to the death of 47,000 women each year. And as long as women can get pregnant, then there will be women who need to terminate that pregnancy for a myriad of legitimate reasons. Come on, democrats, THIS IS BULLSHIT.

The last three movies I’ve gone to ALL featured the trailer for It. NO THANK YOU. Sari and I watched that movie as kids and we are still traumatized to this day. If I’m running, then I will cross the street to avoid a drainage opening in the curb and the bathroom sink is still a place of concern for me. Sari ran out of the theater the first time it came on because she was not prepared to deal with it. We hid under her jacket the second time it came one. I can’t wait until this damn movie is out of theaters because just seeing the ads is too much.

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There’s so much to gripe about this week, but I am [somehow] actually shocked that our President would encourage police brutality. I mean, WTF????? Just when I think he can’t be a shittier person, he just sails right on over that mark.

This is not a Trump-specific complaint, this is a general government complaint. There are 65,000 unanswered applications for student loan debt relief where students have attended a college that used sketchy methods (the official term) to get them to borrow money. This backlog is INSANE and I can imagine the fear and anxiety these people are living with. At least I’m paying back money for an education that was legitimate and actually helped my career. This makes me ill.

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It’s also worth noting that National Collegiate Trusts (who owns American Education Services who owns several of my loans) is facing problems because they are missing paperwork. I’ve discussed this several times, but I think it’s important to see that not everyone who is struggling with their loans is just whining about having to pay them back. I know I have to pay them back, but when they don’t have their information correct and get what you owe wrong, then that is completely unacceptable. Would you enjoy making payments on debt that isn’t yours? Imagine borrowing $175,000 to buy a house, but then having to make payments for years on $250,000 because they screwed up? I don’t think you’d be too thrilled about that. Below is a super useful graphic in case you’re not sure what I’m talking about when I say my loans were sold.

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A recent study found degenerative brain disease (chronic traumatic encephalopathy – CTE) in 110 out of 111 (99%) deceased NFL players. They also found that 87% of the 202 brains of former football players (at various levels of competition who played for 15 years on average) showed signs of CTE. “Several studies have linked CTE to suicidal behavior, dementia and declines in memory, executive function and mood.” This is a good article on it.

I know that writers can do whatever they please with their writing, but it is endlessly frustrating that George R.R. Martin will not FINISH HIS DAMN BOOKS. J.K. Rowling finished her series, THEN she continued to build the HP world with histories and additional texts. I know that it’s incredible that people can even imagine and create such detailed worlds and stories at all, but GIVE US AN ENDING. I don’t want to wait until 2018, George!!!

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I was trying to sit down on the couch last week and I somehow lost my balance and fell over which ended in me hurting my knee. I really don’t know what happened, but I’ve been limping in the mornings since it happened.

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We watched the first season of Bloodline while my parents were in town and how the hell does Linda Cardellini manage to look perpetually 25? The woman is 42 and she still looks so youthful. And you can see the lines on her face which indicate that she’s not 25 anymore, but she still somehow looks 25. HOW???

Image result for linda cardellini bloodlineAlso I really cannot tolerate the mom in the show. She won’t deal with anything herself and she makes her children resolve her problems. It’s infuriating. 

Just when you think he can’t make a more tragic word salad, Donald goes and gives a speech at the Boy Scout Jamboree. WHAT IN THE HELL IS HE TALKING ABOUT? You know how kids and teenagers just love hearing about the electoral college, some old rich guy who wasn’t happy with his yacht, and elections. “Oh, you’re Boy Scouts, but you know life. You know life. So — look at you.” JESUS. Enjoy the full transcript of his nonsense here.

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Good question.

Roxane Gay is asking the important questions – why is Game of Thrones so freaking dark???? We already have to watch it with Closed Captioning because we can’t hear anything, but this week had a lot of scenes that I had a hard time seeing what was happening at all. Even when we rewatched them with the brightness cranked all the way up. I had to Google who was hanging off the bow of that ship because it could have been about six different people.

The other night I decided that I should do something completely out of character and maybe to go one of those adult summer camps to really can push myself to try something new. It’s everything I hate – summer, direct sunlight, crafts, yelling, team activities, sporting, strangers, and drunk strangers. What a challenge! Thankfully, I came across this account from Buzzfeed author Scaachi Koul and I am now back to properly convinced I have no business being at one of those. WHAT A NIGHTMARE.

I would enjoy a mid-winter camp where everyone reads quietly or minds their own business while enjoying an endless pile of snacks. No eye contact and no couches – individual comfy chairs only. So, basically I want to be alone on a hotel balcony in winter with s’mores.

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I took some sleeping medication last week because I was too wired over some work stuff and wasn’t sleeping well. At one point, I woke up and I was petting something. Something that felt like a watermelon with a fur cover on it. After asking multiple times, “Who let this watermelon here?” Alan bit me and brought me out of my haze of confusion. I really couldn’t comprehend what he was.

While not surprising AT ALL based on his history, that R. Kelly story from Buzzfeed is nuts. He is a predator and I do not understand why people continue to support him. Why as a society do we support men who abuse, rape, and harass because they are talented? Bill Cosby, Johnny Depp, Mike Tyson, Woody Allen, Roman Polanski, Chris Brown, Casey Affleck, Sean Penn are just a FEW. STOP GIVING THESE MEN YOUR MONEY.

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I wouldn’t have imagined that I would ever find myself agreeing with Steve Bannon, but here we are (if it actually happened – PLEASE BE TRUE), “Steve Bannon Reportedly Called Paul Ryan a ‘Limp-D*ck Motherf*cker.’”

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A REAL LIVE DOCTOR is FINALLY coming after goop and all of her snake oil nonsense. Dr. Gunter is the hero we need in these dark times of scientific disrespect. Also, her Twitter is A+.

SCIENCE NOT SILENCE. Or Pseudoscience. Or vaginal eggs.

Finally, I say this knowing I’m not a parent and realizing that I might feel very differently if I was, BUT I don’t really understand why this article (do not open at work) about safe sex (a*al sex specifically – I don’t know what I can and can’t type that will get this website blocked) is such a problem? I have always been of the opinion (again, as a non-parent) that teenagers will engage in what they will engage in. THEY WILL FIND A WAY if they really want to do it. I believe it’s of the utmost importance to provide them with the information they need so that that if they do decide to engage (which many will COME HELL OR HIGH WATER), then they are doing so safely and responsibly.

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I cringe in horror at all of the misinformation I heard from my peers, and I am so glad that my parents gave me scientifically-based information about sex and that my Wednesday night Bible study in high school was lead by a wonderful woman who was all about giving us the real talk (and as someone who had experienced teenage pregnancy, abuse, and alcoholism – she knew what she was talking about). I don’t really see a connection between giving people information and encouraging an act because I know far too many kids who had a lot of irresponsible sex (and lots of unexpected pregnancy) despite our abstinence-only education in school. Anyway, this lady is throwing a fit and I couldn’t disagree more. There are a lot of things in teen magazines that enrage me, but teaching young people how to engage responsibly and safely in sex isn’t one of them.

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