Justin Bieber. Why were you shirtless in public and WTF is the deal with your posture?? Why are you always hunched over!!!
There is a guy who will not butt out of my business in the weight room. I try to work out early in the early morning since it’s a university gym and the evenings are usually filled with all the children and I don’t really have the desire or time to walk all the way across campus and get super sweaty at lunch. Anyway, there is this human who has been consistently bothering me the last three times I’ve gone in the morning. He works on campus, so I can’t just be a jerk and tell him to get lost, but I really want to punch him in the throat. He’s full of helpful hints and tips and all sorts of information about how I’m doing it wrong.
I usually do 3-5 sets of 3-5 lifts of heavy weights on each type of lift because that is what has been recommended to me by actual professionals. He keeps telling me to do light weights in high repetition so I don’t get too bulky. I am not worried about getting too many muscles, not in the least bit. In fact, that seems like a pretty good problem to have. Oh my God, I’m soooooo strong and I can open jars all by myself.
I even keep my earbuds in and try to ignore him but he has no problem tapping me to get my attention. If he was a a personal trainer, working in athletics, or teaching in the kinesiology department, I would feel slightly less annoyed because at least he would be someone who is a professional in that field giving advice. But no. Not at all.
I have no desire to change when I go to the gym because then it probably won’t happen, so I’m kind of at a loss. I have politely told him multiple times that I won’t be changing what I’m doing and that I don’t have time to visit while I work out. I really hate confrontation and it’s really awkward, but dude just goooooo awayyyyy, I’ve got a body that needs significant work.
Do men do this to other men? This has happened to me several times and it’s never because I’m standing there looking dumbfounded at some weights or trapped under a heavy bar. WHY??? If I want advice, I’ll pay for it.
It was 86 degrees on Monday. WTF!!! I AM NOT READY FOR THIS.
WALKING DEAD TIME SPOILER ALERT
Oh the tears. So many times. I cried when we we saw how dire Morgan’s life had become, when we learned how Duane had died, when Carl got the photo of Lori, when they left Morgan, and when the hitchhiker was dead. Okay, so pretty much anything with Morgan made me 18 kinds of sad. But I’m so happy that that storyline has been resolved. Years of wondering about his fate are finally over.
I also wonder if it’s hard on Rick to pass by someone on the road like that. I understand why he has to do it in order to keep his group safe, but as someone who was a public servant, that has to go against everything he used to believe in right? Also, why are they not desperately trying to recruit people. It’s one more person to hold a gun against the governor. Is that wrong?
And I’m SO HAPPY that Michonne is finally speaking because good God they need her badly. And her calling Carl out on his bullshit. ABOUT TIME.
That was such a great episode.
And high five for a week without awful Andrea!
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I say kill him. Or pee on him. Either way, he’ll leave you alone.
Oh wow. I think I could do the former before the latter.
That’s what one of my male friends always says when I’m talking about stupid people. “Just pee on him. What else can you do?”
And then there’s this “Handle every stressful situation like a dog. If you can’t eat it or play with it, just pee on it and walk away”
It might shut him up if you tell you have arthritis and this is what your doctor told you to do, so you’re not really interested in taking advice from someone who isn’t your doctor and doesn’t know your medical history… Pulling that card might just shut him up, but honestly he might just be an ass.
Oh, that’s a good idea. He’ll feel like a jerk, then :)
That guy pisses me off, and I’m not even there! I know the type that you are talking about though. It would be one thing if it was an isolated incident, but more than once? No! I would say, “Thanks, I’ve got this. No advice needed.”
I would tell him that if I do too many reps my prosthesis falls off.
hahaha, that would be incredibly awkward.
Clearly he is trying to shoot you game. ;) Cute??
I don’t think men do that to other men at all. For me, they butt in at the gas station. I drive a VW. A diesel. Yes, a diesel. And they will consistently try to stop me and correct what gas I am putting in my car. Hey hey hey, that is diesel. Uh, yea. Thanks. I know. And then I point to the VW and TDI on my car. Oh. Ok.
The Kidless Kronicles
Agree with Gina, sounds like the dude’s in lurrrrvvve :)
No, he’s just a general fountain of all the knowledge. He’s like that with work stuff too. Just a big ol’ pain in the ass.
It kills me every time they won’t let some one join their group. They are decimated! And now Tyrese’s group is more than happy to help The Governor. And this whole end to Morgan’s story was heartbreaking. No happy endings allowed in the new world I guess.
I know! They have like 5 people! What is Rick thinking!!!
I also was super bummed when they didn’t let Tyrese’s group join them–they were SO nice.
I even felt bad for the hitchhiker. But I always think what I would do in a zombie apocalypse, and I guess you have to stick with “Every man for themselves.” Or maybe that just makes me the bitch, I don’t know.
:o I can’t believe that guy! Maybe it’s because I’m from the UK but I can’t imagine something like that happening! Maybe you should print off some articles about how girls don’t have enough testosterone to get ‘bulky’ and that its actually an insult to female figure competitors to think its that easy to build muscle. Then just shove then in his face and maybe the reading wkd shut him up for a while. In all seriousness though can’t you tell a staff member about the problem and get them to shut him up? Good luck!
Well most of the staff there are student workers and it seems bizarre to me to ask them to do what I should. But I think he thinks we are friends? I’m not sure where he got that idea because I am certainly not friendly towards him.
Yea, that’s supper annoying. I think many things in my head about people in the gym but i’d never have the gall to think that I had the right to tell someone how to work out. Besides, nothing bothers me more than girls who work out with 5 lb weights because they’re afraid of bulking up. We don’t have anywhere near the amount of testosterone required to bulk up. Unless you’re doing some serious crossfit or some serious ‘roids, you ain’t gonna bulk up, and those 5lb weights are gonna do very little for ya…..
Well and what if I wanted to be all ripped and muscled up? That’s certainly not his business to tell me how my body should look. Dumb men.
Bulk up then scare him away. :)
Give me a few years and I will totally do that.
I was glad I didn’t have to see Andrea, but I really missed Daryl. I LOVE Michonne, I would be upset if she was gone. And it makes me so sad that their world is a place where you don’t help others, but you do take their backpack when they die….I understand why they have to do it, but so sad.
Uuhhh… guys only do that if they want the chick in the gym and have ZERO game. I’ve never met a woman who willingly takes constructive criticism from a stranger well..so that’s usually what idiots do to get a girls attention. Just tell that douche you’ve got a trainer and if he knew anything about lifting, he’d know in order to bulk you’d need to eat like it. Doing high reps and low weights is just muscls endurance…. you’re building muscle there for the weight is increased and reps dropped. But why am I repeating this, you know. If you want I’ll go work out with you there and I’ll ask him where the mens room is repeatedly. In the middle of all his sets. Because I can be that guy too.
Well I definitely eat like I want to bulk up. And you should come to the gym with me, you will be suuuuuuuper impressed.
Haha I would love to join you at the gym. When I come home I’ll be your spotter. ;) then I’ll force that guy to spot me while I’m doing lat pull downs….then good game him. All while wearing my garth wig from Wayne’s World. Aren’t you just thinking “wow I won the lottery when it comes to men!” Also I’m always super impressed with everything you do…no sarcasm. You do a lot of amazing things…listen to audio books while driving and not falling asleep. Make me smile when I’m sad or mad. You have a PhD. You ran a few Marathons. You still look amazing for someone who claims to have eaten a pool full of candy the other day. I could go oonnn…and on..and on.
I ran A marathon. A single marathon. Just the one. One and done. And I love a man in a mullet.
Well it’s one more Marathon that I haven’t ran…nor will I. Also I just want to remind you I would never push you off a cliff. And I’m totally growing a rat tail out…since you find mullets sexy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqa5rNbcXP8&feature=youtube_gdata_player
that dumb man. So dumb.
Again… just remember I would never push you off a cliff. So you should compare any dumb stuff I do to that. “Damn it Justin spilled a hot pocket in bed…least he didn’t shove me off a cliff” insert dreamy sigh.
Hi Cely!! Ugh. I HATE that with a passion. There is this creepy guy at the gym here that doesnt tell me what to do or not to do, but i swear the man is just creepy and tries to talk to me ALL THE TIME. I have my ear buds in dude and im running as fast as i can on this hamster wheel so no, dont talk to me! and if i am ignoring him, avoiding eye contact he will literally walk right up in front of the treadmill and give me that toothless grin and wave. ugh. ugh. ugh. i was nice one time and said hi and now this. HATE.
I like that you added “toothless” to really up the creep quotient. That sucks so much. And it’s not like running and talking is easy (for me at least).
Sure, but if he’s toothless, at least his bark’s worse than…ah, never mind.
not only that but he wears a dress shirt tucked into his baggy sweatpants and you can tell he actually ‘does’ his hair before coming up there.
Its not just him though…in general i hate that people try to talk to a person with earbuds in their ears…CLEARLY i do not want to talk to y ou and if i do you’ll know it because i’ll take one of them out as you approach.
gah.
oh the toothless part made me think of a friend of mine was telling me about her gym. there was an old guy with an eyepatch who worked out with nunchuks. seriously.
Oh my Lord. If only that was on video.
Truly. I would love to see that. Apparently she heard the noise of the chuks before she saw him.
Obviously that guy thinks you’re hot and wants on :) But probably he should’ve taken the hint that you’re not interested. So now he’s just obnoxious and disruptive.
But also… 86 degress? As in, above zero? I don’t understand. We got 9 inches of snow yesterday :( Although, I would be ANGRY if MN skipped spring and went straight to 86 degrees like TX does. And probably you guys don’t get “snow days” off of school and work like we do once in a while. So I think we’re still winning :)
Hey Sonja…. it snowed in new york city and guess what! I didn’t enjoy it like I thought I would being a southern boy. It was pretty and then I went outside and my pants got wet..i was wearing a suit so it was a big deal. Anyway I’m over snow. Can’t wait for l.a. and Austin. Whooo! Although as a young boy growing up in Memphis tenakey..I used to pray for snow days. Also…don’t be a stranger.
We do get hurricane days. You can keep your snow, I would have no idea what to do in it. And I saw that on the news this morning and thought of you. Glad to see you are alive and well friend!
OMG I don’t know how you’ve gone this long without punching the Gym Guy. I bet if I were there, he would tell me I shouldn’t be lifting because I’m so pregnant. Tell you what, I’ll come by during your regular time and punch him, and then we can get on with our lives.
I sobbed like a hormonal pregnant lady at this week’s Walking Dead too. Sobbed. Violently. Like, I had a crying headache. I’m almost thinking I need to stop watching this show…
i had the same sobs,but no excuse. That episode was heartbreaking.
In response to your story about creepy bro dude in the gym, I thought you’d enjoy this: http://spotmebro.com/how-to-hit-on-a-girl-at-the-gym-dom-mazzetti/
And as for TWD, that episode literally ripped my heart out. Poor poor Morgan. Hopefully Rick will use this as fuel to get his freakin act together though. If it’s going to be a Ricktatorship, the leader can’t be batshit crazy!
Hahaha “Just consistently not speak to a girl.” Awesome. And yes, get it together RICK.
Your Texas map/season key settled it. Texas – preferably the southern region – is definitely the place for me. Central IL winters suck butt. My normal 15 min drive home took me a half hour yesterday, and that same drive to work this morning took me 25 min. I’m so over winter.
Oh my GOD, I would be so pissed. It drives me crazy when guys offer unsolicited advice or help at the gym. You should keep your earbuds in and, when he comes up to you, point at them and say, really loudly, “NO THANKS!”. Then smile and turn away. A semi-polite “fuck off”?
I’m the type that would definitely hit him with a snide & sassy remark, a la – “Gee golly thanks for all the advice Mister, but I have actual professionals guiding me toward my goals and not the ones you read on the side of a chick-mag at a gas station. Oh, and we’re not friends .”
Options:
Start talking about your boyfriend. Heck, your boyfriend wants you to bulk up and so do you! Maybe he will go away?
Wave him off anytime he pokes or talks to you, and hope he eventually shuts up. Keep earphones in and keep going. No eye contact. Ever. Not even for a second.
Point out someone else he can help?!
Good luck! I generally have on a ‘do not talk to me’ look, plus avoid eye contact.
Better – “My girlfriend really wants me to bulk up”.
I think I need to rinse my eyes with bleach to get that Bieber visual to go away. That kid is gross. You’re being too polite with that guy. I’d go in to bitch mode on him.
First, THANK GOD there is another girl out there lifting heavy and understands it won’t make you bulky.
Second, I had the same issue for a long time and got really good at the fuckyouleavemealone smile. Avoided eye contact and put on a total bitch face.
Third, I ended up making friends with a couple of the strong guys at the gym and once the annoying people saw me working out/ talking with them, they left me alone. Must have thought someone was finally teaching me how to do things. okkkkay….
Or you can punch them in the throat. I’ve contemplated that.
oh i had this problem with the light weights with a trainer. who handed me i believe 7 lb dumbbells for chest presses. seriously?
Dude, respect gym etiquette and back off. My blood started to boil thinking about that. I love that the gym is when no one talks to anyone else. It’s THE BEST PART of going to the gym at that time of day because we’re all too zombie’d to interact.
The guy at the gym is clearly and idiot. You may want to point out that as a woman you do not have the testosterone required to bulk up. You can lift weights “like a man” and still look like a lady. However that in itself may be an awkward situation.
Ugh! I am so mad at that no-hint getting dude I never met! What if you wanted to bulk up? What if you want to look like future Millhouse? That’s not his damn business, and it’s not your obligation to conform to his feminine ideal. He probably tells all his no-hint getting friends he ‘helps the ladies out’ at the gym too. What a butt.
It may be time to break out the ‘let’s just be hi bye friends’ speech.
Ick, Bieber needs to upgrade those pants badly! Is that a drawstring I see in the front?!
That guy at your gym sounds awful. I try to be polite when I’m at the gym (say hello, wave, generally acknowledge people when they speak at me), but I really dislike chatting it up while I’m working out. It really sounds like you’ve done pretty much all you can to give him a hint. At this point, you might be able to justifiably resort to just rudely ignoring him (maybe toss in a stank-eye or super bitchy glare for added emphasis to let him know you’re not interested in what he thinks).
My thought about the hitch hiker was exactly that…. recruit him! You live in a jail for godsake. Lock him up somewhere until you can trust him. He’d probably have preferred that to the open road.
I was getting really annoyed with Michonne and her angry face, and this episode made me like her a hell of a lot more.
I thought this was a great episode that felt more like older episodes. I’m kind of getting bored waiting for the Rick/Governor confrontation.
You are a smart cookie, you should just ask him something like. “when I’m doing a dip, what plane of motion are my parascapular muscles in? ” If he can’t answer that, then ask him nicely to go f himself.
A) If Bieber stood up straight his pants would fall directly to the ground.
B) Maybe gym creeper is awkwardly trying to start a convo with you. Aka – hitting on you. Or just being a weird gym creeper. Who knows with men…
I’m wondering WTF is wrong with JBs pants. Every time I see a picture of him I want to sing “Pants on the ground, pants on the ground. Looking like a fool with ya pants on the ground.” He always looks like he’s got a heavy diaper underneath or something. Pull your damn pants up. They’re probably the reason he walks like a caveman.
Haha people trying to tell other people how to workout. Next time criticize him on his techniques and see how he likes it!
I loved this Walking Dead episode. Loved it. Missed Darryl though.
I also watch the Talking Dead after and someone tweeted in “i wonder where they can find a picture of Shane so Judith will know what her father looked like.” Bahaha!
HOLY HELL! Yes. It was 90 degrees in Fort Wort on Monday. And I REFUSE to turn on the air conditioning because I am stubborn and ridiculous so really I just smelled bad all day.
I have NEVER watched the walking dead, but I feel like I have to now, it is CRAZY popular!
He’s hitting on you. I suggest you hit back. XD
And I suspect Beebs is only walking like that to keep those god awful ‘pants’ on.
i was soo happy michonne started speaking also, it was making me absolutely insane.
You might have to go speak to someone who “works” there. I don’t know how it works on a campus. But I have had that situation more than once and with one elderly fellow, who kept standing DIRECTLY over top of me while I used the hamstring wheel, which gave him a great view right down my shorts leg, I had to go to someone. I mean, if you want a peep show, at least stick money in the wasteband of my shorts. Preferably large bills.